I’m 24 years old and my life is going nowhere. What can I do to change this?
Although I don’t know your specific situation, I will say this: you’re young. You have time, and time is the most valuable thing in the world. In considering the most valuable resource, I would place time above money, above experience, above connections.
Why do you feel like your life is going nowhere? Are you comparing yourself to your peers? If so, stop it.
Right now you are stuck in the mindset of thinking about the things you don’t have, and that is a surefire way to make yourself miserable. Learn to love the things that you fill your time with. Work hard. Success will come.
You’re probably thinking I’m full of shit.
Okay, then let me quote someone far more famous than myself:
“You have to be burning with an idea, or a problem, or a wrong that you want to right. If you’re not passionate enough from the start, you’ll never stick it out.” -Steve Jobs
But how do you find that passion you may ask?
1. Try things.
Anything that strikes your interest. Do you like games? Cool, learn a programming language. There are plenty of free online resources. Do like to write? Awesome, start blogging. How about foreign languages? Go download an app like Duolingo. These experiences are more valuable than most people realize. The process of teaching yourself skills rather than just absorbing information from teachers or employers will help you to become a more independent thinker and help you to develop a sense of who you are as a person.
2. Love the process and forget about the destination.
If you find something you love to do, you have to work like hell to make sure you can keep doing it. Sure, you probably won’t see any immediate profits from, say, taking an unpaid internship in an industry you find interesting or from writing movie reviews for your entertainment blog. However, as long as you keep pushing yourself to learn new things and progress, I promise you that there will be benefits.
3. Be an active participant in your own life.
Your early 20s is a time when you are still figuring out how to live your life. Maybe you just got out of college or maybe you’re just realizing that your first “grown-up” job isn’t all you thought it would be, and you’re used to having your life laid out for you by your teachers or your employers. The fantastic news is: you can do whatever you want. Whether it’s at work or in your personal life, take initiative. Take notice of the things that you want to change, and DO IT. Don’t be passive.
4. Don’t lie to yourself.
his process will be hard. Most people will make excuses as to why they can’t live the life they want. They’ll think that they can’t move up at work because their boss is a jerk. Then, guess what? Find another job. They’ll think that they don’t have the skills to do what they love. So what? Learn them! Yes, there will be real roadblocks on your journey, and you may end up in a place that you never dreamed of, but that’s why I’ll refer you back up to point #2. Take a hard look at yourself and ask what is holding you back from getting what you want? Find your weaknesses, and learn how to fix them. Again, the internet has a ton of professional development resources on how to learn anything from networking skills to graphic design. Check out Udemy and Khan Academy to start.
Those are my main points of advice for any young person who is struggling with figuring out what they want to do. Now, no excuses, get out there and get what you want.
Thanks for asking. I hope that this has provided you some value.
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